It's been a really long time since my last post. Over 4 months, to be exact. Which is so sad, because I truly enjoy blogging and sharing my life, thoughts, and insights. And because I really don't journal, this is kind of my way of keeping track of those kinds of things.
At any rate, lots has changed since May 1st.
For starters, my boss, my mentor, my friend, and my work husband sold his half of the practice and left as of May 15th. So there was this big gaping hole in our clinic and everything was so strange for a while, some days it still is. We had already hired a new grad (who was supposed to be our 4th vet) and she started June 1st, but I went back to work full time until the middle of June to fill in and ease the transition. And of course, we were slammed. But we had some great vet students come through this summer, so it was kind of fun.
The biggest difficulty, as always, was juggling our schedule around again. We had just gotten Coleman used to being home a lot with me and then we had to throw him back into daycare full time for a few weeks until Nana was done with school for the year and she kept him part time. Scott was gone a lot and I was on call every other night and every other weekend for a while while we got the new vet up to speed. It was kind of crazy, but this difference this time was there was a HUGE light at the end of the tunnel come July, so there was a lot of motivation to finish each day strong.
Then towards the end of June, my mother- and sister-in-law both resigned from teaching high school here and took jobs out in a very small town in West Texas. Like, suddenly. As in, we found out from other people (via the local paper....) it happened so fast. My in-laws own the land and house that my husband's great-grandparents had, so they moved there because they needed to fix up the house and decide if they want to sell or permanently move there. Meanwhile, my FIL is going back and forth between the two places taking care of the bred heifers they are calving out and the bumper hay crop from this summer.
Our church is also going through a transition period. My father-in-law was an elder, but felt he needed to resign because he wasn't going to be here full time and didn't feel he could carry out his responsibilities well. Our preacher resigned and moved within a month. Another elder was involved in an accident with a horse and sustained major head trauma, so he has been absent as well. And our youth minister and close friend has been on sabbatical, learning what is effective at other churches our size and taking some time to slow down and seek God as he grieves the loss of his children to his ex-wife. See, not great order. But I've been impressed at our remaining two elders and deacons for stepping up. Scott is also the coordinator of fellowship and has some great ideas to bring union to our church family- so in love with that man!
As if that wasn't enough, we lost a baby on May 27th. I was seven weeks, 4 days along. In fact, we found out the day after my last post that I was expecting, and I have 4 or 5 posts written about how excited we were about our new family member that I was going to post after we told the world. I am truly at peace with the whole thing, but I don't feel that I need or want to share my feelings with the world- it's still a very personal thing, you know? I know that God was definitely with me (even though I was by myself at the time) and that He has protected me from what could have been a very negative experience. I hope that one day, I'll be able to influence another family in pain, but on an intimate, one-on-one basis.
So, besides all that, there have been a few other things thrown into the mix. Everything at work is being re-aligned (like e-medical records, ugh), my other boss's family recently experienced a loss, it's a busy time of year and we've all been gone to CE at various times, just general craziness. Scott had several trips this summer and was gone a few weeks here and there.
I'm hoping that in the next week, the madness dies down and we can get back into a normal kind of groove. I've started a few blog posts that I am excited to finish and share. I'm ready for cooler, perfect (running!) weather. I'm looking forward to the excitement of FALL- my all time favorite season. And maybe somewhere in there, I'll find time to relax. And blog. :)
I am a 30 something working mom serving my family and an awesome God! He has given me an amazing husband that shows me His absolute grace every single day and a 3 year old that is the lens through which I have come to see His glorious world. I hope for this blog to be a reflection of what He has shown me through His Word and through the many blessings He has given to me.
Saturday, September 12, 2015
Friday, May 1, 2015
The Eyes of a Child
A post on a friend's Facebook page has stayed with me for the past few weeks.
Matt: "I wish I knew her sooner."
Me: "What do you mean?"
Matt: "I mean...35 years with no Eleanor."
Her husband was talking about their 5 month old, always smiling daughter. She is their second daughter, and seems like just the happiest baby you've ever seen (at least according to Facebook pictures, but really, who takes pictures of an unhappy baby?) In the comments section, another mother posted that her husband asked their baby, "Where have you been all my life?", and several others commented on how pre-baby memories vanished soon after they arrived and how hard it is to picture going back to a life without children.
My friend countered by stating that she and her hubby had made some awesome memories and taken some amazing trips, but that having kids "amplifies each experience," that everything is made fresh and exciting, and "we get to experience things with two very excited sets of eyes."
My comment was: "Love this! I agree with you that life can be just as awesome before and after kids, but the thing is, kids take everyday experiences and turn them into something magical. I will always remember taking trips with Scott, but I'm also pretty sure I'll remember the look on Coleman's face when he held a worm and a tiny frog for the first time today while we were digging in the flower bed. Everything, from going to the grocery store to hearing your child talk about Baby Moses and the "bad king" is fresh and new." This was followed by other comments about watching one's hand pop out of a sleeve and kicking a ball around the back yard and squealing with glee, and how they say that "you get the first five years of your life back" when you have kids. Pretty sure God gives us these awesome moments to make up for 2 am feedings, diaper blow-outs, and temper tantrums....
The following Monday was filled with severe thunderstorms in our neck of the woods. Finally, just before dusk, my favorite time of day when the sun shoots golden rays at the perfect angle through the trees, the sun came out and this complete double rainbow formed against a purple sky. Absolutely breathtaking. We rushed outside to take it in.
Hard to see the second one, and this pic does not do any justice to how vivid it was in real life. |
Melt. My. Heart. So many lessons in three simple, convicting, adorably misspoken sentences.
Do we recognize that He is with us always, that he "comes to our house"? When we see a rainbow, do we remember that God always keeps his promises or just admire it's beauty? And when we do, how quick are we to thank Him for simple everyday pleasures like playtime and sunshine and frogs and rainbows in a voice filled with amazement?
Going back to the discussion on Facebook. There are two huge parallels between that discussion and our Christian walk. First, as babes in Christ, there is a newness, a hope, a freshness that must be nurtured to become a mature Christian. Seeing things through a fresh set of eyes, capturing that innocence that can only be found in children, hungering for knowledge to gain an understanding of the world around you. We should be more like that in our Christian walk, seeing God in all that he has done and made for us. Joyfully thanking him for everything from our Mommy and Daddy to our trains and tracks. Singing "Jesus Loves Me" off key at the top of our lungs. Unabashedly telling people "I love you" and freely handing out hugs and kisses. In fact, Jesus rebuked his own disciples for turning children away in Luke 18:15-16.
"But Jesus called for them, saying, 'Permit the children to come to Me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.Truly I say to you,whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child will not enter it at all.' "
The second parallel has to do with wiping the slate clean, erasing memories and not being able to imagine life any other way. Isn't that what Jesus does for us when we put Him on in baptism? Our past sins are forgiven, Christ no longer remembers them and we are given the go ahead to do the same. Paul talks about "forgetting what is behind and straining for what is ahead" in Philippians 3:13. There would be a void in my life if Coleman wasn't here, but there would be an even bigger one if Christ weren't in it. For those that don't have children or don't know Christ, there is no way to explain how your heart can totally overflow with love. And I can't imagine the pain if I were to ever loose him. How much greater pain would I endure if I turned away from God? Once you experience that much joy, how do you live without it?
"35 years without Eleanor."
"35 years without Christ."
While you are focused on teaching the children in your life about the world, allow those little innocent minds to teach you something about its Creator.
Wednesday, April 29, 2015
Church Family LOVE
The past two days, I have really felt the presence and importance of having a supportive church family. I have witnessed the amazing power of love for your brethren, not first hand, but as a participant and bystander.
Two of my very best friends went through a nasty custody hearing for their two children yesterday. We don't know the results just yet, and I'll spare you the courtroom drama, but I'll just tell you it is heartbreaking. This has been on-going since last summer when their kids decided they wanted to go live with their biological mother, and we have been praying constantly and walking this journey with them.
Monday night, one of my husband's buddies called and said they were going to meet with the husband to pray. Scott came home and TWENTY MEN had shown up, all of the elders and deacons, a former minister, their close circle of friends that recently started a "raising Godly children" Bible study. They each took turns praying over him, praying for all aspects of the hearing, from the judge to the ex-wife, to all the witnesses, to the children.
Tuesday morning, nearly 40 church members showed up for the hearing. Most stayed until it was over (originally scheduled for 9 am, it got bumped back to 1:30 and wasn't over until 4:30). 40 members, somewhere between 1/4 -1/5 of the regular Sunday morning crowd. I wasn't able to attend, but it still overwhelms my heart that so many people care so much about this family that they would sit in an uncomfortable courtroom and stand in the gap for one of our own.
I took my friend "to get a coke" (Texas code for: "go to Sonic, get any kind of beverage and talk things through") later yesterday evening. Neither one of us had too much to say- the whole situation is just too raw and overwhelming to hash it out too much. But she kept listing off all the people that were there and the supportive comments they had made, the testimony on his behalf that had been given, the meal someone provided. All seemed like small gestures, but as a whole, they meant the world to my friends.
I keep thinking, "THAT is what it means to be a member of a church family." Showing that kind of love for your fellow church member, being there at their darkest hour, providing what they didn't even know they really needed. After seeing my church at work this week, I am 100% convicted that being a member of this church (or a church) is paramount to my Christian walk. Christ "laid down his life for his friends," (John 15:13) and I am convinced that to see this kind of out-pouring is the closest thing we can see in this world that even mimics Christ standing in the gap and dying on the cross for our sins.
These 40 people and 20 men didn't just show up and sit. Their presence conveyed a much deeper message to this family. It meant they have been praying over this situation for months. It meant they love all those involved. Maybe more importantly, it meant they will be there for this family no matter what the judge decides. Our friends have an army of people they can count on, and there were many more that would have been there if they could. I feel so honored and blessed to be a part of this family.
Two of my very best friends went through a nasty custody hearing for their two children yesterday. We don't know the results just yet, and I'll spare you the courtroom drama, but I'll just tell you it is heartbreaking. This has been on-going since last summer when their kids decided they wanted to go live with their biological mother, and we have been praying constantly and walking this journey with them.
Monday night, one of my husband's buddies called and said they were going to meet with the husband to pray. Scott came home and TWENTY MEN had shown up, all of the elders and deacons, a former minister, their close circle of friends that recently started a "raising Godly children" Bible study. They each took turns praying over him, praying for all aspects of the hearing, from the judge to the ex-wife, to all the witnesses, to the children.
Tuesday morning, nearly 40 church members showed up for the hearing. Most stayed until it was over (originally scheduled for 9 am, it got bumped back to 1:30 and wasn't over until 4:30). 40 members, somewhere between 1/4 -1/5 of the regular Sunday morning crowd. I wasn't able to attend, but it still overwhelms my heart that so many people care so much about this family that they would sit in an uncomfortable courtroom and stand in the gap for one of our own.
I took my friend "to get a coke" (Texas code for: "go to Sonic, get any kind of beverage and talk things through") later yesterday evening. Neither one of us had too much to say- the whole situation is just too raw and overwhelming to hash it out too much. But she kept listing off all the people that were there and the supportive comments they had made, the testimony on his behalf that had been given, the meal someone provided. All seemed like small gestures, but as a whole, they meant the world to my friends.
I keep thinking, "THAT is what it means to be a member of a church family." Showing that kind of love for your fellow church member, being there at their darkest hour, providing what they didn't even know they really needed. After seeing my church at work this week, I am 100% convicted that being a member of this church (or a church) is paramount to my Christian walk. Christ "laid down his life for his friends," (John 15:13) and I am convinced that to see this kind of out-pouring is the closest thing we can see in this world that even mimics Christ standing in the gap and dying on the cross for our sins.
These 40 people and 20 men didn't just show up and sit. Their presence conveyed a much deeper message to this family. It meant they have been praying over this situation for months. It meant they love all those involved. Maybe more importantly, it meant they will be there for this family no matter what the judge decides. Our friends have an army of people they can count on, and there were many more that would have been there if they could. I feel so honored and blessed to be a part of this family.
Monday, April 13, 2015
Faith Journey
My good friend, Jon, once said in a sermon that every story is God’s
story, we are just the characters in it. God has written a surprise twist into
His story for us. Today our little family starts a new and exciting chapter.
The past six months have been one of uncertaintly, to say the
least. It’s hard to even start this blog, and even now I know it’s going to be inadequate
to get out on paper His complete and total sovereignty in our lives. God has
overwhelmed me on so many levels and surprised me (and then at the same time,
not surprised me at all).
So I’ll just start with a timeline of events to fill you in.
The wheels started turning for this big change the first part of
October, when our last hand at the dairy quit. Then by the week of
Thanksgiving, Kenton and Scott had sold the milking herd and were looking to
find whatever God had in store for them. This was a huge, big, scary change
from the norm that had been for 43 years, Scott’s entire life. Scott had a
series of interviews with a feed additive company that would have meant a move
for us to West Texas, but they weren't able to see that his actual experience
in the dairy industry was far more beneficial than his lack of sales
experience.
At any rate, we got re-adjusted to our daily routine and were
enjoying life through December and had a wonderful Christmas. Scott had a few
feelers out for jobs, was working to build his independent sales with Accelerated
Genetics, and had put in his application to substitute teach at the high school
in the meantime. I had had several
conversations with friends, one in particular, that were so positive and
uplifting. She could see what I couldn’t, that God had an amazing opportunity
waiting for us and that even if it meant a move, she was so excited for us. My
friends helped me see that Scott and I were on a “faith journey”- to trust in
God and just know He was going to get us to the end, to the place we were meant
to be, and that we had to trust Him with the details to get there. Whatever
direction He took us was going to be awesome beyond our greatest expectations
and He would use us to further His kingdom wherever that may be. We had to
believe that whatever it was, it was going to be better!
Then the first week of January, my bosses came to me to tell me
that they were “re-structuring” the clinic and they needed me to go half time
at half salary within 90 days. Not the greatest news to the sole income earner
for my family and a solid employee of nearly 8 years. There were lots of
reasons for this decision, and it has been a goal of ours (mine and Scott’s)
for me to work less since Coleman was born. This was no secret to my employers.
I have been convinced for several years that I was not being the mother I
needed to be for Coleman because I worked such long, emotionally and physically
draining hours. And I’m not talking about “mommy guilt” here. I mean a very
strong, absolute conviction that God
meant better for my life and for my family (more details in this post).
We have talked about and tried to figure out how to make a part time schedule
(and income) work for us several times throughout the years, but something
always fell through or didn’t work out on paper. Truly, I think it was a lack
of faith on our part or just God saying, “it’s not time… yet.” So, even though
it wasn’t technically our decision, I know that it was ultimately God paving
the way to work His will in our lives.
I think that knowing and being able to see God’s hand in all of
this is what kept me from being hurt, angry, vengeful, panicky and a complete
basket-case. Now, I’m not saying I didn’t feel all of these emotions. I
certainly did, especially the first few weeks. And my friends and family were
not as forgiving as I- they were plenty mad for me. I had many moments where I
wanted to break down and sob, and many more where I had to stop and catch my
breath before I had a panic attack, and one pathetically sad pity-party night.
I remember one moment in particular, while making out the check to give as an
offering at church, being very saddened by the thought of not being able to
give as freely as we have been, or at least with a clear conscience. There were
so many details to work out: finances to re-budget, expenses to cut, daycare
schedule, becoming a single car family (my truck was previously provided by
work), the very real possibility of a move for a new job, and the list goes on
and on.
But each time I faced one of these new challenges, I could feel
myself riding on this undercurrent of overwhelming peace. I knew God was
working his perfect plan, I just didn’t have any idea how we were going to get
there. Every time I had an argument in my head, “But God, how…..?” the answer
rang loud and clear in my heart that everything was going to work out better
than I could have even thought to pray for. I refused to let myself sink into
the “what ifs” knowing that I would probably drown in my own emotions. Every
time, there was the reassurance that God was giving us the desires of our
hearts in His good and perfect timing.
So Scott's job search intensified. He had two big opportunities
that he worked hard to pursue. One would have meant a move to South Dakota, the
other to the Amarillo area. I worked on my curriculum vitae and cover letter so
that I would have it ready to apply for a new job in our new location. We were
stuck somewhere between excitement for a new beginning and a fresh start, and
sorrow at leaving all that we had in Bowie behind. We dearly love our family,
friends, and church family, and raising Coleman in a rural environment with so
many people to love on him and be his village is exceedingly important to us.
And even though I was not going to be working much, I still believe my clinic
is one of the best in the state and my co-workers are some of my best friends.
Scott was flown out to final interviews for both positions. He
went to South Dakota State University in January where he would have been the
herd manager for the dairy at the school. I couldn’t have written a more
perfect job description for my husband. He would have overseen all operations
at the dairy, helped plan the design for a new facility, taught a few classes,
and coached the dairy challenge and judging teams- all things he loves and is
passionate about. Unfortunately, the high that day was 29 degrees and everyone
was talking about what a lovely spring day it was (surely you can’t want me to
be cold for the rest of my life, right God?!?!?). He left the interview feeling good about it,
but knew that being a university, they wouldn’t be in a hurry to make any
decisions.
He was flown to Kentucky for an interview with the second company
the first week of March. With AllTech, an animal health and nutrition company,
he would be a sales representative and his focus would be mainly dairies in the
West Texas/Amarillo area. His boss would be a former student of his when he was
a TA for six weeks in Clovis, New Mexico at the inaugural Dairy Consortium, a
short course that he and his professor helped establish. (Incidentally, I hated that he was involved with that
program that summer because I didn’t get to see him for 6 weeks of his break- looks
like even then, 7 years ago, God was working this plan. Hindsight is 20/20.) Because
the weather was deteriorating, his day long interview and tour of headquarters
was reduced to a one hour meeting in a restaurant at the airport and a return
flight home by the skin of his teeth before DFW closed all runways due to ice.
He called me before hopping on the plane to say that they wanted to hire him.
Even better, they wanted him to stay in Bowie because they wanted him to also
serve dairies in the Sulfur Springs, Stephenville, and Southern Oklahoma areas,
making this a central location.
I couldn’t answer him- I was crying. His salary would more than
cover my lost income. His benefits would handle everything that we had decided
we could cut from our budget for a while. The company provided him a truck- the
same make and model of the truck I would lose the use of, right down to the
4-wheel drive. We didn’t have to uproot our family and our ties to Bowie. Every
detail, all of the logistics, finances, my job, everything was covered in more
ways and more perfectly than I could have dreamed.
The following week, Scott called South Dakota State to tell them
he had taken another job. They told him they were actually about to send him an
offer letter the next day. Two offers with 24 days to spare on our 90 day
timeline. God sure knows how to deliver in just the nick of time! Both amazing opportunities,
but ultimately the AllTech job was a perfect fit. It’s like God finally said, “Okay….
now!!” As far as my job goes, all of the details of my new contract, schedule,
and arrangements have worked out surprising easily, with no disagreements or
arguments.
Today, April 13th, is Day 1 of the rest of our lives.
Scott is off on a new adventure, starting a new career and making all kinds of
connections in both the dairy and animal nutrition industries. I start my new
part time schedule today, and although there are lots of mixed emotions related
to taking a huge step back in my career, the fact that I was so upset by that
aspect of it all brings into sharp focus just how out of whack my priorities
lie. Finally, I get to be a full time wife and mommy, and a part time vet,
instead of the other way around. I am apprehensive and excited and relieved all
at the same time. Mostly, I am looking forward to doing all of those family
things I haven’t made time for these past 3 years. Above all, I am incredibly
grateful that God has chosen to bless our family after years of patience and
dedication and heartache. It’s such an amazing thing to see how everything has
come together to align our hearts and plans with God’s will. I can’t wait to
read the rest of His story!!!
Friday, April 10, 2015
When it's All Said and Done
Note: I started this post on November 25th, but there was just too much raw emotion to put it into words. I finished it today, because that chapter of our story needed to be completed.
For the first time in 43 years, cows are not being milked at Twin Oaks Dairy.
That's right, Kenton and Scott sold the milking herd. And I'm pretty sure it broke everyone's heart. Not that it was a bad decision, or the wrong one, just that it's so drastically different. Every day of Scott's 31 years, cows were milked, babies were fed, and hay and feed were put out. Tonight, it is eerily quiet, and Scott is home early.
The first week of October, our last milking hand turned in his two weeks notice. He is leaving to go work in the oil field, and we can't compete with that pay scale. Perhaps that’s why we haven’t even had anyone come by in two years asking for a job? That and dairying is hard work. Scott and Kenton have been killing themselves trying to get everything done. They have been stressed, exhausted, and there's almost a sense of hopelessness about them.
For the first time in 43 years, cows are not being milked at Twin Oaks Dairy.
That's right, Kenton and Scott sold the milking herd. And I'm pretty sure it broke everyone's heart. Not that it was a bad decision, or the wrong one, just that it's so drastically different. Every day of Scott's 31 years, cows were milked, babies were fed, and hay and feed were put out. Tonight, it is eerily quiet, and Scott is home early.
The first week of October, our last milking hand turned in his two weeks notice. He is leaving to go work in the oil field, and we can't compete with that pay scale. Perhaps that’s why we haven’t even had anyone come by in two years asking for a job? That and dairying is hard work. Scott and Kenton have been killing themselves trying to get everything done. They have been stressed, exhausted, and there's almost a sense of hopelessness about them.
When we were dating, I remember one of the last things Scott
asked me before we got engaged was if I could handle being a dairy wife. I was
insulted. Of course I could. Who did he think he was talking to? I’m a vet. Of all
the people I know, wouldn’t you think I would know how important it is to take
care of and milk cows around the clock? Truly, I had no earthly idea what I was
about to become a part of, something much more than just milking and feeding
cows.
Being a dairy farmer is not merely a job or a business
venture. It is a way of life. These men, this family, they breathed it, they
lived it, and when they were able to sleep, they dreamed it. Odors that would be
off-putting to most became my favorites, they were my husband’s scent. There is nothing better than looking out to see black and white cows in a green pasture. Nothing more satisfying than a hard day's work, especially in agriculture. Yes, it was constant work, and yes, lots of holidays, birthdays, weddings, even funerals were missed or postponed in order to get the job done; it is what it is.
But it came down economics. To support two families, a certain number of cows had to be milked, but that number was higher than two men could do alone. And those two men were tired. Their wives were, too. There's only so much support you can give your husband before you lovingly and hesitantly say, "enough is enough," because deep down you know that to stop dairying is giving up not just a business, not just a lifestyle, but a 3 generation legacy.
A buyer, a good man who understands the blood, sweat, and tears we all put into those cows, offered a very fair price, and two weeks and three truckloads later, the only sound left on the always noisy dairy was the crying of hungry calves and heifers. Thank goodness we didn't sell them right away so Kenton and Scott still have something to do. But soon, those will be gone, too, and we're not sure what they will do- probably fix all of the things they haven't had time to fix for the past 5 years.
I wouldn't count them 100% out of the dairy business just yet. In fact, they've already started dreaming up the next plan. But for now, it is time to rest and regroup. And praise God for the wonderful opportunities that lie ahead and thank Him for those blessing we have already received.
Friday, March 13, 2015
Meditation
I had one of those ‘ah-hah!!!’ moments the other day. I’ve
been fortunate enough to get to lead a discussion group (notice I didn’t say ‘teach
a Bible study’) this past quarter. Our young ladies class has been working
through “Knowing God’s Word” in the Women of Faith study guide series and we’ve
made it to week 11 out of 12. The study has given us insight into the tools we
need to go from merely reading the Bible for completion to actually studying
and digging deeper by using cross references, Bible references (like commentaries,
dictionaries, and concordances), looking at various translations, reading for
context, doing outlines and word studies, and searching for themes.
This week’s lesson was meant to take us from studying to
meditating. What is the image you get when you hear the word “meditate.” I
picture someone doing Yoga near a mountain stream in the warm sunshine with the
scent of fresh flowers and pine needles, head completely cleared of any outside
distraction. The word, for me, evokes more of a relaxed, reflective mood than
one of intense study. The book had us look at many different verses, mostly in
Psalms, that contain the word “meditate” or “meditation.” All of the verses
pointed out the great things that can come from meditation (success and
prosperity, gaining understanding, outward progress) and how much God is
pleased by our meditation.
I decided to take it a step further. With each verse, I
looked up the definition or synonyms in Vine’s Expository Dictionary. Here’s a
list I compiled for what it means to “meditate”:
Utterance, musing, contemplate, whisper, murmuring,
prayer, commune, think,
consider, judge, complain
None of these sound very passive or restful. They all
require action. In fact, I didn’t come across the word reflect or rest. Not
exactly the cultural image suggested by the word “meditates.”
Okay then, so how does one meditate? Well, that list is
mostly verbs, so that’s a good place to start. The study also had us look up Philippians
4:8 that tells us to think on these: whatever is true, noble, right, pure,
lovely, admirable, trustworthy, praiseworthy. Now we have a bunch of adjective.
[ My mom the English teacher is cringing J.]
So I thought, “Okay, we can start putting it all together.” We can contemplate things that are noble. We
can pray about things that are pure. We can muse about things that are lovely
and admirable.
The final verse the workbook wanted us to look up was 1st
Timothy 4:15. “Meditate on these things, give yourself entirely to them, that
your progress may be evident to all.” This reminded me of a conversation I had
with a good running friend of mine. We had decided that if we ran as much as we
thought about, read about, or talked (blogged) about running, we would be in great
shape! This verse is trying to say the same thing. If we were to be constantly
thinking about God’s word, we would be in such awesome shape spiritually that
the world couldn’t help but take notice- wouldn’t that be cool?
I wanted to learn a little more. The verse says “meditate on
these things” – what things? Back up and read for context.
- Verse 12 gives us the WHAT: in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity
- Verse 12 and 13 gives us the HOW: be an example, give attention to reading, exhorting/edifying, and doctrine
- Verse 14 gives us the DON’T: neglect the gift that is in you
- Verse 15 tells us that meditating on these makes us outwardly spiritually fit.
- But the key is in verse 16. Sixteen gives us the all important WHY: “You will save both yourself and those who hear you.”
What better reason to devote time to meditation than to
secure one’s own salvation and that of other believers? In Joshua 1:8, he is
told to “This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall
meditate in it day and night, that you may observe to do according to all that
is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will
have good success.” Joshua was facing the armies of the Canaanites. We are
facing the armies of Satan and the world. Like Joshua, our success will be
measured in defeating the enemy, and our prosperity will be reaching the
Promised Land. Meditating on God’s Word is the key to obtaining both.
Wednesday, March 4, 2015
Heart, Soul, and Mind
I learned the words as a little girl in Sunday School, to
the tune of some 50s song (that for the life of me I can’t remember the name
of!!). And now I sing it to my son as a lullaby. “Love the Lord your God with
all your heart and all your soul and all your mind and love all of mankind as
your would love yourself.” (Matthew 22:37) I sing the two greatest commands as
if they were a children’s silly song. But I remember them, and I have had those
words hidden in my heart for the last 30 years.
Recently, I saw the application of these in practice. Or
rather, became acutely aware of the lack of them. I think I’ve been noticing it
in Bible study for a while but finally put it all together. The command is to
love the Lord. How? With all one’s heart and soul and mind. Sounds easy enough,
right? Right.
Until you really break it down. Have you ever been sitting
in a class and everyone gets in a deep, heated theological, intellectual discussion
about some really legalistic issue and you think, “everyone is missing the
point.” Do you ever listen to a sermon and get no feeling or emotion behind the
scriptures, laid out like cold, hard facts in a court trial? Or conversely,
take in a truly heart felt worship experience and inspiring, emotional sermon
but in retrospect everything was just kind of loosely based on scriptures? Or
shy away from the mention of the Holy Spirit at the risk of being labeled
Pentecostal or Charismatic?
Heart. Soul. Mind. The scriptures tell us God intended these
three areas to work in concert together. The word AND becomes really important
there. You can’t just love God by knowing a lot about him, or feeling your way
there, or relying solely on the Spirit. We have to marry the three.
Heart. This one is easy: any emotion you feel towards God,
towards another person, towards a situation. And as women, we can totally let
them get the best of us. We can be in danger of letting our emotions guide us
completely and not rely on the Word of God. There is a lot (a whole lot, I
believe) to be said about a woman’s intuition, but there are times when we have
to take a step back and ask God to make us neutral and be objective. Men,
generally speaking, seem to have the opposite problem, easily ignoring their
feelings (or ours) and seeing everything as 100% black and white. Good, but at
the same time, isn’t it necessary to open one’s heart in order to have a
relationship with God, to not harden it to what He has to reveal to us? Neither
situation strikes a good balance. Sadly, I have also witnessed this in church
work. Some preachers and congregations seem to make it the focus to make
everyone feel good, to not preach the truth in love for fear of hurting
someone’s feelings, glossing over or omitting scriptures that might make
someone feel uncomfortable, using an emotional situation to pull at the
heartstrings or sway someone into a decision (mass church camp baptisms,
anyone?). Yes, God is love. But at the same time he is a just God who set in
place laws and rules, not to keep us from having fun or living our lives, but
to keep up from hurt and pain, because he loves us. It comes full circle.
[Okay, sorry, I’m going out of order, because I want to tie
it all up in a nice little package and it all comes together nicer if you talk
about heart and mind first]
Mind. The church of Christ is really good at this one.
Almost too good. We are known for knowing the scriptures backwards and forwards,
for studying, cross-referencing, Bible bowl, Bible challenge. Coming from a
Baptist background, I remember being so intimidated when my new found church
friends could spout off some obscure scripture from Habakkuk, and I couldn’t
remember where that book was in the Old Testament, let alone classify it and
tell you what was going on in the history of the Israelites at that time.
Please don’t get me wrong, Bible knowledge is uber-important. But being
legalistic about them, for just seeing them as fact is where we can get into
trouble. Atheists (and Satan for that matter) know what the Bible says. To draw
application from them, to allow God to speak to us through scripture, to learn
life lessons from them (not just about
them), that is the challenge, that is where using the mind and thinking for
oneself (with the help of the Holy Spirit) become critical for loving our
Almighty God. Check out the Bereans in
Acts 17:11-12. The searched the scriptures daily, it says, but even more than
that, they received and believed.
Soul. Ready for this? I broke out the Greek lexicon, because
I had a thought and wanted to make sure I wasn’t way off base. The Greek word
used here for soul is psyche, defined
as “the breath of life”. This is very similar to the definition given for the
Greek work pneuma or Spirit, as in, the
Holy Spirit. Ooohh. Read 1st Corinthians 2:12. “Now we have
received, not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, that we
might know the things that have been freely given to us by God.” The only reason we, as Christians, can
fully know and love God is because we have the Holy Spirit within our own
soul. The Holy Spirit, that helped write
the very Scriptures, is inside each Christian helping them discern the mysteries
of the Bible. The reason we are able to understand scripture and see how God is
working all things together for our good is because he is living and working in
our hearts. This makes recognizing the power of the Spirit an absolutely
essential element in our walk with God. Again, sometimes it can be taboo to
speak of the Holy Spirit working in our lives, but I think we need to know and
to be able recognize when it working
Let’s put it all together. Have you ever been in a really emotional
situation, and suddenly the exact right scripture to bring you peace or calm
fears or even to celebrate a victory pops in your head? John 14:26 says that “The Helper, the Holy Spirit,
who the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to
your remembrance all things that I said to you. See? Previous study helped you learn it, the
Holy Spirit helped you remember it, and emotions helped you truly experience
it. Or those times you are completely lost in a passage of Scripture, having a
hard time comprehending the words on the page, and an event, conversation or
prayer that opens your heart to allow the Holy Spirit to lead you brings
clarity? Or maybe you felt the tug of the Holy Spirit guiding you to a
particular verse that you were later able to use to ease the pain of a loved
one?
The three, heart, soul, and mind, must work in concert to
truly allow us to experience God as He was meant to live in our lives. They
have to live in a sort of checks and balances system so that one never
overpowers the others. And I think that being acutely aware of this triad will
help to unlock a deeper understanding of ourselves, of the Scriptures and the Holy
Spirit as we learn how to love God more fully.
Monday, March 2, 2015
Professional Courtesy
Disclaimer: I am not writing this piece because I am looking
down on professional or career women as a whole (I am one), nor do I want to
discourage women from achieving goals and obtaining success. I want no part of
so-called “mommy wars” and I am not starting a SAHM/WAHM/WOHM/FT/PT debate. I
simply want to say what I wish someone had said to me 15 years ago.
I am a veterinarian. I spent 8 years in college and
professional school. I have worked full time for the past 8 years, working 50+ hours
a week and nights and weekends on call. I stay late to return phone calls,
finish paperwork and clean up messes. Daily, I help owners make agonizing
decisions about how to care for or euthanize their pets. I work with an amazing
team of co-workers that I consider family. I have seen some pretty cool stuff
and worked in some pretty awful conditions (makes for great stories, right?). I
have diagnosed some really rare conditions and am able to do some cool
procedures. I love my job, most days. ;)
I was told my whole young adult life that what I was doing
was awesome. My friends and family were so proud of me and gave me the
encouragement I needed to make it through vet school. Along the way, I made
some of the best friends I could ever imagine. I was encouraged that all of my
hard work in school would pay off, I’d have this awesome job, and that life
would be great. The expense of school was to be considered and investment in my
future that I’d be able to pay off easily. No worries. I invested much more than
money into who I am today.
All of this enthusiasm was great. When I felt down, I could
always find someone to lift me up and remind me about my goals. Even now, I am
met with nothing but reassurance. But looking back, there was one thing no one
ever told me, something I never even considered. No one ever stopped me and seriously
asked me, “Sara, do you want to get married, do you want to be a mommy someday?
Do you want to have a family? Do you want to be there for your family?” These things were the farthest from my
mind when I was in school. I had no prospects for a husband, no time to date or
even think about the future, other than that I was going to be a veterinarian. And
to be honest, I probably would have said what I’d been conditioned to say. Young
ladies are told their whole lives that we can have it all, we can be whatever
we want to be, we can do it all. But no one ever mentions that if you have a
career, that you will be doing it
all- at the same time. In this modern society, where feminism, and
multi-tasking, and glass ceilings are common themes, a young girl with
professional aspirations is almost ashamed to stop and think, “but how am I
going to juggle career and family?” or even to admit that deep down, they
really want a husband and babies. Or at least I was.
For intelligent young women, success is measured by how many
degrees one obtains, how much status they achieve through their careers, and a
yearly salary and benefits. But then you reach the point where you are finished
with school, you have a great job, and then…. what? Life begins. You meet an
amazing man, fall in love and get married. You adjust and figure out how to
both have careers and nurture a marriage. Then along comes a baby or two, and
again, you make it work. But later, you lift your head above the mad chaos that
has become your life and think, what am I doing? How can this possibly be
healthy for me and my family? But by now, life has got you. Your career is
taking off, you still need to make enough to make ends meet and pay back the
huge school loans you “invested in”, and your babies are growing at warp speed.
Sadly, I think even the church can be involved in pushing
women too hard. Exhibit A: the Proverbs 31 woman. She had it all. She did it
all. She was all things to all people. And that is the standard that we are
given to live up to. And it is intimidating and exhausting to read the list of
her attributes: hard worker, early riser, successful business woman, caring
employer, blessed mother, trustworthy wife, wise, kind, and well known in the
community. She cooks, she weaves and sews, she gives to the needy, and to top
it all off, she’s beautiful. Seriously, how does she do it?
I have a (completely theoretical) guess at the answer. It
says she does all these things, but it doesn’t say that she did them all at the
same time. Ecclesiastes 3 talks about different times in life. I believe that
this amazing woman recognized that, in order to excel, that she needed to focus
on certain things in different seasons of her life. She gained the respect and
trust of her husband early in their marriage. She loved and nurtured her
children while they were young and that carried over thought their adult lives.
She took care of her household and her servants. Perhaps when the children were
a bit older, she became a shrewd business woman and gained recognition in her
community. And perhaps in her later years, she was hailed as a precious,
beautiful jewel.
At the same time though, I’d like to point out that the
Bible says “who can find” such a woman? Maybe we aren’t supposed to be all of
these things? Maybe some are meant to gain wealth, some to run a household,
some to be benevolent? We are made to be different, and we are called to serve
where we are. Maybe being a Proverbs 31 woman means something different to each
and every one of us? For some, a distinguished career. For others, being the
uber-mom. For most of us, finding a balance between the two. Again, all
speculation.
Professional women are often faced with a choice, family or
career. It doesn’t seem like a fair
choice, there’s guilt and judgment either way from the SAHM v. WOHM battle
lines. And I used to be one of those that looked down on women I knew that
“gave up” their career for their families. I remember one instance in
particular. I asked my cousin’s wife, who was in PA school at the time, why she
didn’t just spend one more year in med school to become a doctor. Her answer:
“I want to be a Mommy someday, and I can’t do that and be a doctor”. I thought
that was ridiculous. Really, your aspirations in life are revolving around the chance
that you might have a family someday?
I didn’t realize how wise she really was.
And for that reason, I am going to have a discussion with
every young woman I come in contact with that wants to become a vet. We mentor
lots of high school, college age, and vet students at my practice, the majority
of them female. I’m not going to tell them they need to be stay at home moms,
or work part time, or put off having children or going to school. I hope to not
really influence their decision to become a professional woman. I just want to
plant the seed in their head that a decade from now, they will have other
people in their lives and that the career they choose now will affect them
greatly. And I’m going to tell them to prayerfully consider their career choice,
not just outline the classes, tests, and applications necessary to get into
school (again, something that was never mentioned to me). For those that are in
vet school already, I’m going to mention to them to make sure there is room in
their contracts for maternity leave, extended or family leave, managing their
money to go part time if they need to, and being up front with their employers
if they intend to have a family.
Again, I know I sound really jaded. I think it comes from my
own guilt at having worked my son’s first 3 years of life away and not being
there when my husband needs me. And yes, there are times I feel completely
selfish for having chosen to borrow so much money for my education that I’ve
now placed my family in a situation where I have no choice but to work. But I
feel that maybe I can use my experience to help another young woman avoid some
of the heartache I’ve experienced these past few years. At least I’ll put the
idea in her head that yes, you can have it all, but do you really want it all
at the same time?
Wednesday, February 18, 2015
Runner's High
I run for fun. Yeah, I said fun, as in, a hobby. It started as a vanity thing following a doctor's appointment and an embarrassing number on the scale. then it turned into a way to get into shape in anticipation of trying to have a baby and wanting to have a healthy pregnancy. Then it became a way to get out the door with my son in the stroller. Sine then, I've run several 5Ks, one 10K, and got 3/4 of the way through training for a half marathon before medical complications benched me. Now, it's become more of a sanity thing. It clears my head, makes me believe I can eat more chocolate, and give me something to work towards (I can be a little too determined sometimes). The trick is, I have to be signed up for a race or working towards a new speed or distance goal to find the motivation to keep training.
The Bible is chock full of verses that speak to runners:
The Bible is chock full of verses that speak to runners:
- "When you walk, your steps will not be hindered, and when you run, you will not stumble." Proverbs 4:12
- "But those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, They shall run and not be weary, They shall walk and not faint. Isaiah 40:31
- "Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but one receives the prize? run in such a way that you may obtain it.... Therefore I run thus: not with uncertainty. Thus I fight: not as one who beats the air." 1 Corinthians 9: 24 & 26
- "I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith." 2 Timothy 4:7
Sometimes I remember these verses when I run, but mostly, I gasp out a few phrases here and there.
Today, during Bible class, I was able to
identify with one of the most well-known passages in the New Testament in a
completely new way. I am always in awe of the fact that I can read familiar
words and pull something new out of them each time or at a different season of
my life. I think that speaks to how the words are “living and active” (Heb 4:12)
Hebrews 11. The Great Faith Chapter. It
starts with the best definition of faith given in the Bible. Then reminds us
that we believe by faith that the Word of God formed the worlds. Then it lists
all of the major players in the OT that had amazing faith: Abel, Enoch, Noah,
Abraham, Sarah, Isaac, Jacob, Joseph, Moses, and Rahab. Honorable mention is
given to several others and the chapter is summed up by listing all of the
methods by which the faithful were tortured and murdered and otherwise suffered
for their beliefs. All of this is like a crescendo to the charge given in
Hebrews 12:1. “Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud
of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily
ensnares us, and let us run with
endurance the race that is set
before us,”
Yeah, I loved it already because of the
mention of running, but let’s go back to Hebrews 11 verse 13 “these all died in
faith, not having received the promises,
but having seen them afar off were assured of them, embraced them, and
confessed that they were strangers and pilgrims on the earth.” and verse 39
“And all these, having obtained a good testimony through faith, did not receive the promise.”[emphasis
mine] The great faith heroes of chapter 11 never
reached the finish line, but that was their motivation for continuing on,
with the vast hope that they would someday, somehow get to see the promised
land, knowing beyond a shadow of a doubt that there was something better yet to
come! They knew they weren’t home yet. Joseph didn’t even have his bones buried
and 440 some odd years later he was finally laid to rest in the land of Cannan-
because he had the faith to know that just because his story ended in Egypt, God’s
story was far from finished.
So,
let me tie it all together. When I run, especially when I’m training for
something, during the last mile of my run, I imagine that it’s the last mile in
my race. I push myself, I lip sync to the fast paced music playing full blast
on my headphones, I run as fast as I can that last ½ mile, I picture myself
crossing the finish line. Mile 2 becomes mile 12. I can almost hear the crowds
cheering, can see Scott at the finish line waiting for me, can taste the
chocolate milk that will quench my thirst and speed my recovery. And I can feel
the pride that my hard work and months of training has paid off big and I accomplished
my goal. The energy I get from transforming my mind gets me through that last
leg, even though it’s not the real deal.
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